- Most people familiar with SF tend to have some good experiences with it which is likely to make them lenient.
- SF'ers will probably use it themselves (self-coaching). When when helping such people, it may even be so that they will help formulate the questions.
- When they say something like: "Oh I know that question, that is the scaling question", It is probably wise to respond something like: "Ah, you know that one! Do you think it will be useful to try that question?" If they agree, go ahead, if not, figure out together what may be more useful.
March 29, 2010
March 28, 2010
March 27, 2010
- Permanence: is the cause of the event permanent or temporary?
- Pervasiveness: will the cause of event affect every aspect of life (permanent) or only this context (specific)?
- Personalization: is the cause of the event internal (caused by self) or external (cause by others)?
March 26, 2010
March 25, 2010
- Every day in every way you are helping to shape which genes become active. Your life is interacting with your genes (p27)
- While we'll never have true control over our lives, we do have the power to impact them enormously (p27)
- Children develop only as the environment demands development (p35)
- Intelligence is a dynamic, diffuse, and ongoing process (p42)
- No one is genetically designed into greatness and few are biologically restricted from attaining it (p43)
- Talent is not the cause but the result of something (p49)
- Short term intensity cannot replace long-term commitment (p54)
- With humility, with hope, and with extraordinary determination, greatness is something to which any kid -of any age- can aspire (p10)
- Stability does not imply unchangeability (Michael Howe, p34)
- People make a great mistake who think that my art has come easily to me. Nobody has devoted so much time and thought to composition as I (WA Mozart, p57).
March 19, 2010
The differential effects of solution-focused and problem-focused coaching questions: a pilot study with implications for practice
Full reference: Grant, A.M. & O'Connor, S.A. (2010). The differential effects of solution-focused and problem-focused coaching questions: a pilot study with implications for practice. Industrial and Commercial Training, Vol. 42 No. 2, pp. 102-111.
March 18, 2010
March 13, 2010
Excerpt from The Genius in All of Us: Why Everything You've Been Told About Genetics, Talent, and IQ Is Wrong
We know that genetic factors do not operate "instead of" environmental factors, they interact with them: GxE. Genetic differences do exist. But those differences aren't straitjackets holding us in place; they are bungee cords waiting to be stretched and stretched. When positive environmental triggers such as parental speaking are discovered, the appropriate response is not to caution against their possible irrelevance, but to embrace their influence on our genes-- and our lives. And now we know what some of those triggers are:
- Speaking to children early and often: This trigger was revealed in Hart and Risley's incontrovertible study and reinforced by the University of North Carolina's Abecedarian Project, which provided environmental enrichment to children from birth, with the study subjects showing substantial gains compared with a control
March 10, 2010
Live clients of tell us the process was useful for them in two ways. First, they benefits because they are helped with respect to the problem or goal they brought in for the coaching session. Second, they often say that it was very useful for them to experience the coaching process from the perspective of client. For us as trainers this process of having a live client coached by participants is also very useful and interesting. At several points during the process and at the end of the process we interview live clients and focus on two questions: 1) what worked well according to you?, 2) what tips do you have for the coach?
"If the client wants to say more, please let her talk as long as she wants. Clients really need that time to explore their own situation. Don't be afraid to go too slow. The client only wants it to go slower."
March 6, 2010
John is so lazy and manipulative! He lets me do all the work. And afterwards he even tries to take credit for my work.
Pete is always complaining and playing the victim … Such a baby! Grow up, man!
You got that right!
Both are quiet and think. After about 5 seconds one of them says: that is a very good question …
March 5, 2010
"The “scale question” similarly arose by chance. De Shazer tells of a client who had come to his second session. The therapist asked how he was doing or what was better now. The client had spontaneously replied: “I’ve almost reached 10 already!” The therapist began to play with the idea of using numbers to describe one’s situation. This started the development of the scale question used in solution-focused therapy. During the work process, something happened that was perceived to be useful and it was done again. (de Shazer, 1999)."
March 3, 2010
From a distance other people may look very calm and controlled. The reality is probably there is a more or less constant tension within each of them. The same may apply to all complex systems.