July 3, 2009

Fantasizing about heaven on earth

"Fantasizing about heaven on earth may put a smile on your face but is unlikely to help transform your dreams into reality."

What I like about this quote is that it warns against thinking about goals in terms of ideal situations, just like I do in this article:
Solution-Focused Scaling Questions.

3 comments:

  1. Well...
    but a smile on my face might get me in a resourceful state, optimal for making my dreams a reality...

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  2. Hi Paolo, thanks!

    Clever argument :) (as always)

    But dreaming itself isn't what doesn't work, I think, it is the heaven on earth part. I think it may be wiser to keep the dreams a bit smaller and less idealistic. I wrote about that in the post series: How good does it get? http://solutionfocusedchange.blogspot.com/2008/12/how-good-does-it-get.html

    I think not all smiles are the same. It is like Carol Dweck's observation: a compliment about a child's intelligence does create a smile on the child's face. A little later the child will start worrying about his intelligence-label and may become risk aversive. (http://solutionfocusedchange.blogspot.com/2007/12/process-praise-more-effective-than.html)

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  3. In my opinion: dreaming about heaven on earth does make you smile and gives you energy while you are still dreaming. The next moment however, while trying to change, it can make you feel inadequate and paralyze you.

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