"I have found that being slow-to-know is a more realistic stance. First, being slow-to-know encourages the expansion of people's descriptions, allowing diversity to emerge as clients restate posititions and overexplain themselves. Because I am driven to be open to correction and I am constantly revising my ideas, this slowness is not an act -the client knows that I am not mentally slow, but they re-act and re-search with me in hopes of re-creating some meaningful differences from their own language and experience." (source, p8)
I like the idea of patiently developing your understanding of something.