A client of mine has had a difficult year with many hardships. One of his parents died and his wife has a severe chronic disease. During the many hard moments he has gone through he has found that there has been one question which has helped him to get through the problems. Each time something bad happened, he asked himself: what can I learn from this? Looking back, he said that this one question has been more important than anything else to cope with his troubles. It helped him to stay focused and to keep on doing what the situation required him to do. It has been a great coping question.